Weddings...I've been planning my wedding since I was about five. My plans have changed drastically through the years - the "peak" of my wedding mania was sixteen (sixteen was just an over-the-top time for me in general), with a complete Cinderella themed wedding (complete with full orchestra to best get the complete effect of all my favorite film themes I wanted to play). I've scrapped the full orchestra and the glass slippers since then. :)
In the past two years my wedding mania has slowed a bit...partially because after my relationship fiasco the last thing I wanted to think about was weddings, partially because of all the other stress in the past few years, partially from being in a wedding (surprisingly after helping with one it takes the fun out of it for a while ;)), and maybe partially because I've just begun in the past few years to really realize how serious marriage is in general - what a huge leap you're taking, what an enormous responsibility marriage is and how it cannot be taken lightly - that the lighthearted fairy-tale idea I had of weddings kind of became less and less important.
(This is definitely a ClearPlay film. Just in case you're wondering ;))
As I realized that weddings are just one day in an eternity of responsibility, my ideal wedding began changing. It went from "let's have a huge shebang" to "let's have an intimate wedding with friends and family, celebrating love". It went from "full orchestra and all the trimmings" to "whimsy and romantic". And as I've struggled and fought to find and be "myself" in the past few years, it's less about keeping all the wedding rules and having a wedding that is completely and totally "me".
With that said, every once in a blue moon I find myself actually looking through wedding pictures, reading wedding blogs (although seriously...you can only read so much about weddings before you know everything ;)), and watching the occasional wedding video. And once in a while, I see something I really like.
This post is a compilation of it. :)
In the past year, I've become enamored with the shabby chic, French country look, much to my mother's amusement. I spent years bemoaning how old and chipped up everything she loved was...my brothers still affectionately refer to her stuff as shabby junk. But out of the clear blue, I suddenly found myself drawn to the look, getting shabbier and shabbier until I absolutely love anything and everything shabby chic (if you've seen Once Upon a Time - I am completely *obsessed* with Mary Margaret Blanchard's apartment!!!). And my wedding ideas reflect that - the whimsical mix of rhinestones and burlap, chipped wood and lace, satin and feathers, a cross between rustic and Marie Antoinette.
For wedding colors, I am drawn to the same colors as my room - a base of blush, gold, cream, and rose. Like my room, the decor will probably have touches of tiffany blue, sage green, and lavender, but as far as the "official wedding colors" for bridesmaids and such, it's definitely rose. :)
My wedding gown has changed through the years, and I have no idea what I'm going to do when the time actually comes...so many options! I'll probably be like my mom, who changed her design so many times (she made her own gown) that a week before the wedding she still didn't have the sleeves on because she just couldn't decide between two different styles. :)
I love the sleek, 20's-esque look in formal gowns, and I love the idea of a form-fitting wedding gown...I've tried several on for fun before...but for me, every time I keep going back to the big ballgown look for a wedding gown. This may change by the time I actually marry, of course, but for me, the huge skirt both screams "bride" and the over-the-top poufs scream "me". :) The dress on the left is, so far, my favorite...with some slight alterations to the top, of course. ;)
I love roses and peonies and want to incorporate them into a bouquet - and I *love* the idea of feathers and rhinestones in a bouquet, too. :)
For the bridesmaids, I see something similar to this dress I found on Etsy...light and airy chiffon dresses, probably knee or tea length, depending on the bridesmaids.
For the flowergirl, I knew what I wanted the minute I saw this on Etsy...a miniature replica of the Masquerade gown from the Phantom of the Opera film. How adorable is that?!
I've always been a black-tux girl - there is *nothing* more attractive than a man in a tux. Absolutely nothing. But I do kinda like the trend going now of the light suits. I really, really like it. I just don't know if I like it enough to scrap the black tux. I mean...how many times does a guy get the opportunity to wear a black tux? Seriously. Soooo we shall see. ;)
I love the idea of an outdoor wedding, but my paranoid, doesn't-handle-stress-well self would not be able to relax wondering if it was going to rain - and with wedding stress all ready there, I'm like, why add to it? I've really come to love the idea of a rustic chapel or even better...an old barn. LOVE the old barn idea. Decorated with light and tulle and flowers and chandeliers...it's the perfect mix of shabby and chic.
Our church is extremely family-oriented and relaxed. We get together, sing a hymn or two, my dad preaches, and then we have lunch and hang out and fellowship all day, sometimes late into the evening. And that's it. It's extreeeemely low-key and so relaxed and how I feel church should really be. And my point in all that...that's how I want my wedding to be. We're all together, celebrating love and God's providence in writing what I know will be an incredible story.
While given my large family size, it's gonna be a big wedding whether I want it or not, I want the feel of a small, intimate wedding. I want food and relaxing, everyone talking together like a big family. I want a low-key ceremony, probably early afternoon, with an early evening reception. Probably a string quartet and piano or such for the ceremony. I envision it spring or summer wedding (a dream of mine is to marry on June 27th, which as I've mentioned recently is a significant date in my favorite film, Somewhere in Time), and I want it out in the country. My life has been one of weeding out things that don't matter, of "not accepting limits 'cuz someone says they're so", and I want my wedding to reflect that. While there are some fundamental things about weddings I want, I am a strange mix of traditional and wildly non-traditional. I just want my wedding to be me. :)
There is one thing I've stuck to since day one of planning my wedding, one thing that hasn't changed even when Cinderella and sky-high wedding cakes has...I want to play the Somewhere in Time theme for my processional. I've listened to it a million times in the past eight years since I've seen it (and years before that when my mom played the soundtrack), and I will admit to envisioning a processional to the music. :)
As far as other music, I'm obsessed with love songs, as most probably know, and want lots of them. I'm sure that a song will pop up that will become "our song", so I'm not setting any particular song as "it", but there are several that I know I definitely want playing at some point during the ceremony and/or reception. "All I Ask of You", "When I Fall in Love", "Two Words", as well as the themes to my favorite romantic films are a must. I want love quotes all over, in the programs and framed on tables.
My mom is the queen of decorating from nothing. People are shocked to discover that everything we decorate with came from thrift stores and flea markets and on the corner waiting for the trash truck. I've been decorating my new room, and the only money I've spent on it so far was a twenty-dollar antique table - everything else was free or all-ready owned. I look at these pictures and I see how we can decorate so cheap...this is my mom's specialty. Not to mention that it's her hobby. :)
So there's my idea in a nutshell. :) Just deceivingly simple, happy, and relaxed. A day to praise God for what he has done, and enjoy family.
That was really, really fun. :)